Yesterday I had a long talk with my hunny. He noticed that I m sad and tired lately and is very worried. Normally I m a person that keeps all my troubles for myself and I want to solve all my problems by myself. But this is the thing that put a relationship in danger.
If you keep everything to yourself, eventually you are gonna burst and your partner wouldn't understand it, because you have never talked about your problem. So it comes for him like a storm on a clear day.
I told my hunny everything that bugged me, the stress at work, the stress to earn more money and the stress to make this relationship works out. He got mad at me, I should have told him earlier about all the stress I m having. I shouldn't forget that he loves me more then anything in the world, I m the reason why he left his family and friends behind to move to a foreign country. Seeing me like this makes him mad at himself. Because he is the source of all my troubles. He is going to help me with finding ways to earn more money.
We made an agreement that when we have problem or troubles, we will tell eachother everything. The talk really made me feel relieved and happy.
31 October 2010
28 October 2010
Halloween event WoW
Finally got some time to do the Halloween event in WoW, but no luck at all, I really really want the headless horseman mount, but I guess maybe next year. I wunder what the drop chance is for it.
After my hunny got hacked twice 2 weeks ago, I decided to buy him an authenticator. It really makes your account saver, though a little bit more annoying to log on. But that better then getting your account hacked over and over. I m wundering how long it takes before it runs out of codes, what happens then? Or what happens when it runs out of battery?
After my hunny got hacked twice 2 weeks ago, I decided to buy him an authenticator. It really makes your account saver, though a little bit more annoying to log on. But that better then getting your account hacked over and over. I m wundering how long it takes before it runs out of codes, what happens then? Or what happens when it runs out of battery?
26 October 2010
So tired
Lately I have been so tired, my work, my family and my secret love. Every day I'm spinning between them. Wake up at 6 to go to work. Work 9 hours, goto my hunny, after 1 hour go home and have dinner with my parents. After dinner, do homework for work, then bed.
Currently the Halloween event is running in WoW. I really want to get the headless horsemen mount, but I don't even have the time to log in for the few minutes kill. Luckily I have gotten all the world events archievements last year, this year it really is a mess with work and everything.
I need to give a presentation next week and I still haven't prepared it. I hate presentations, because i get nervous so easily, any tips?
Currently the Halloween event is running in WoW. I really want to get the headless horsemen mount, but I don't even have the time to log in for the few minutes kill. Luckily I have gotten all the world events archievements last year, this year it really is a mess with work and everything.
I need to give a presentation next week and I still haven't prepared it. I hate presentations, because i get nervous so easily, any tips?
23 October 2010
Am I being abused?
My swedish lover and I are together 1.5 years now. He is studying hard at the local university and doing quite well. Though I wish he would help out with the money troubles. I did asked him, if he could try to get a part time job. But he says he wouldn't have enough time for studies then.
Am I too kind to him? I'm working more then 10 hours a day to keep him here. But he ain't helping out at all. But it is hard for him to live in a totaly different country and leave all his family behind.
But I can't shake the thought of him abusing me. If he ever ditches me, I'll be left behind with lonely and with alot of debts. I know that I must trust him, but dark thoughts comes up sometimes, I worry too much.
The 1 day we spend together is getting boring lately, I can't seem to be able to entertain him, we need to save money so we can't have fun outside and because of all the working I m way too tired in the weekend to be active. I want to rest most of the time, but he wants to do different stuff. Will I loose him this way?
I told my parents I have a non Chinese boyfriend. They weren't too happy with it, but at least they didn't demand me to break up with him, though they want to see him. Now I have a new problem, how can I show them that I have 5 years younger, unemployed, non educated, non native boyfriend?
They also told me that I shouldn't consider marrying him, because a western marriage won't last forever, after a few years I'll be ditched with 2 kids which I need to raise alone, because no other man would ever want me then. Should I be worried?
I just need to hold on to the thought that he loves me as much as I love him.
Am I too kind to him? I'm working more then 10 hours a day to keep him here. But he ain't helping out at all. But it is hard for him to live in a totaly different country and leave all his family behind.
But I can't shake the thought of him abusing me. If he ever ditches me, I'll be left behind with lonely and with alot of debts. I know that I must trust him, but dark thoughts comes up sometimes, I worry too much.
The 1 day we spend together is getting boring lately, I can't seem to be able to entertain him, we need to save money so we can't have fun outside and because of all the working I m way too tired in the weekend to be active. I want to rest most of the time, but he wants to do different stuff. Will I loose him this way?
I told my parents I have a non Chinese boyfriend. They weren't too happy with it, but at least they didn't demand me to break up with him, though they want to see him. Now I have a new problem, how can I show them that I have 5 years younger, unemployed, non educated, non native boyfriend?
They also told me that I shouldn't consider marrying him, because a western marriage won't last forever, after a few years I'll be ditched with 2 kids which I need to raise alone, because no other man would ever want me then. Should I be worried?
I just need to hold on to the thought that he loves me as much as I love him.
Is it possible to get your hacked hotmail account back?
It has been 1.5 week now and my hunny still couldn't get his hacked hotmail back. He delivered all the proof he got. But then he gets an automated reply from hotmail, saying that he didn't proof enough and if he doesn't deliver more proof, then his claim will be ended and bye bye account.
Anyone has some tips?
Lately I have been doing alot of overtime to get more money, it is getting cold outside and the heaters are turned on, that means a high bill soon. I really need to find some ways to earn more money. Anyone has some tips?
Anyone has some tips?
Lately I have been doing alot of overtime to get more money, it is getting cold outside and the heaters are turned on, that means a high bill soon. I really need to find some ways to earn more money. Anyone has some tips?
10 October 2010
Besides alot of work, account got hacked too
These few days have been terrible for me, I had so much work to do, I had to work 14 hours a day and I couldn't visit my hunny and when I finally took some time off. A spammail arrived in my e-mail, my hunnies e-mail got hacked...
I immediatly phoned him and told him to change his hotmail accounts password. But when I arrived to visit him, he didn't change it, because he didn't notice anything weird. Then another e-mail came in from Battlenet. His World of Warcraft account got hacked. Because his World of Warcraft account is linked to the hacked hotmail account, the hacker could retrieve the password. He stole all his gold, vendored all the gear, everything in his bank and stole all the gold (150k) and mats from our guildbank.
After we received the e-mail, we immediatly filled in the online web form at battlenet to retrieve his WoW account. I must say that I admire Blizzards quick response of their customer support. 1 hour later he could change the log in e-mail, he got his account back and he got all his gold and items and the items in the guildbank restored. Thank you Blizzard!
The weird thing was that my hunnies account was frozen, he didn't pay to play for 3 months already, because he is focussing on his new college year. The hacker actually bought a gamecard online and activated his account! And what did he get with it? Nothing, because everything got restored.
Good ending you think?
No, the next day, we've found out that his e-mails password got changed and the retrieve password doesn't work too, because his account is now linked to an email that looks like 3xxx3333@qq.com. (the x's were hidden by hotmail) And the other e-mail (also hotmail) where his WoW account is newly linked to is also hacked. So his WoW account got hacked again *wah!*. His other e-mail also got linked to an email that looks like 3xxx3333@qq.com. So now everything got more complicated, we don't have access to his emails, no way to retrieve his WoW account. Of everything, the most annoying thing is that he lost his hotmail that he was using for a lot of years and got a lot of things registered too. And we do not know how he got all the log-ins. My hunny said he cleaned his pc, but he didn't change his first e-mails password and that was so stupid, I got really mad, but I didnt't scold him, should I have done that? The weird thing is how he got the other e-mails password, that account we only used for some stuff we do together and it was a totaly unrelated password.
Blizzard was great again and after 1 hour, his account + everything got restored again, we now used another pc to get accounts back. And we now use a gmail account.
But the biggest problem now is. How to retrieve your hacked hotmail account? We tried everything to retrieve password, but everything sends an email to the secundairy mail and that is the hackers email. The hacker seems to be from China, because qq is a chinese mailprovider, something like hotmail. We then filled in the live account retrieval form. Hotmail (Live) promiss to give us a reply within 24 hours if we can proof that the account is his. We filled in the form for both accounts and hope for the best.
But then I googled on 'hotmail account got hacked' and the hits weren't encouraging. Hotmail (Live) doesn't seem to respond on those forms at all, people have been waiting for weeks and no reply (where is the 24 hour promiss???) and didn't get their accounts back.
We also changed all the password to every thing that was registered on that e-mail account and changed all the passwords of accounts that were logged on to on that pc, but I still don't feel safe.
I used Spybot, CCleaner, McAfee Antivirus, Hijackhis and Trendmicro housecall to clean his pc, but it still doesn't feel safe, I want him to clean his drives and reinstall Windows, he doesn't want to do that, since it is so much work, That makes me so mad, the whole day I was doing my best to retrieve everything for him and help him change all the passwords, but he doesn't seem to care at all, why not? It is all his personal information and accounts that has been stolen. It makes me so sad too. What should I do?
I immediatly phoned him and told him to change his hotmail accounts password. But when I arrived to visit him, he didn't change it, because he didn't notice anything weird. Then another e-mail came in from Battlenet. His World of Warcraft account got hacked. Because his World of Warcraft account is linked to the hacked hotmail account, the hacker could retrieve the password. He stole all his gold, vendored all the gear, everything in his bank and stole all the gold (150k) and mats from our guildbank.
After we received the e-mail, we immediatly filled in the online web form at battlenet to retrieve his WoW account. I must say that I admire Blizzards quick response of their customer support. 1 hour later he could change the log in e-mail, he got his account back and he got all his gold and items and the items in the guildbank restored. Thank you Blizzard!
The weird thing was that my hunnies account was frozen, he didn't pay to play for 3 months already, because he is focussing on his new college year. The hacker actually bought a gamecard online and activated his account! And what did he get with it? Nothing, because everything got restored.
Good ending you think?
No, the next day, we've found out that his e-mails password got changed and the retrieve password doesn't work too, because his account is now linked to an email that looks like 3xxx3333@qq.com. (the x's were hidden by hotmail) And the other e-mail (also hotmail) where his WoW account is newly linked to is also hacked. So his WoW account got hacked again *wah!*. His other e-mail also got linked to an email that looks like 3xxx3333@qq.com. So now everything got more complicated, we don't have access to his emails, no way to retrieve his WoW account. Of everything, the most annoying thing is that he lost his hotmail that he was using for a lot of years and got a lot of things registered too. And we do not know how he got all the log-ins. My hunny said he cleaned his pc, but he didn't change his first e-mails password and that was so stupid, I got really mad, but I didnt't scold him, should I have done that? The weird thing is how he got the other e-mails password, that account we only used for some stuff we do together and it was a totaly unrelated password.
Blizzard was great again and after 1 hour, his account + everything got restored again, we now used another pc to get accounts back. And we now use a gmail account.
But the biggest problem now is. How to retrieve your hacked hotmail account? We tried everything to retrieve password, but everything sends an email to the secundairy mail and that is the hackers email. The hacker seems to be from China, because qq is a chinese mailprovider, something like hotmail. We then filled in the live account retrieval form. Hotmail (Live) promiss to give us a reply within 24 hours if we can proof that the account is his. We filled in the form for both accounts and hope for the best.
But then I googled on 'hotmail account got hacked' and the hits weren't encouraging. Hotmail (Live) doesn't seem to respond on those forms at all, people have been waiting for weeks and no reply (where is the 24 hour promiss???) and didn't get their accounts back.
We also changed all the password to every thing that was registered on that e-mail account and changed all the passwords of accounts that were logged on to on that pc, but I still don't feel safe.
I used Spybot, CCleaner, McAfee Antivirus, Hijackhis and Trendmicro housecall to clean his pc, but it still doesn't feel safe, I want him to clean his drives and reinstall Windows, he doesn't want to do that, since it is so much work, That makes me so mad, the whole day I was doing my best to retrieve everything for him and help him change all the passwords, but he doesn't seem to care at all, why not? It is all his personal information and accounts that has been stolen. It makes me so sad too. What should I do?
05 October 2010
How to divide time between love and work
I cried today. I have a lot of work that I need to finish in private time. I m doing these extra work because I want to impress my boss and get a promotion and thus a raise.
But my hunny wants more time of us together, nothing makes him happier then me spending all my time with him. He is waiting for me all day in his appartment, till I go visit him after work. He doesn't want me to work so much.
How can I make him understand that I m doing all these extra work for him? I need to get a promotion and a raise to be able to keep him here with me. I guess he doesn't know how much money it costs me to keep him here. I guess I should tell him.
I want to make him happy but I also need to work hard to keep him here. Everything feels so hopeless today, I cry but there is none to comfort me.
But my hunny wants more time of us together, nothing makes him happier then me spending all my time with him. He is waiting for me all day in his appartment, till I go visit him after work. He doesn't want me to work so much.
How can I make him understand that I m doing all these extra work for him? I need to get a promotion and a raise to be able to keep him here with me. I guess he doesn't know how much money it costs me to keep him here. I guess I should tell him.
I want to make him happy but I also need to work hard to keep him here. Everything feels so hopeless today, I cry but there is none to comfort me.
03 October 2010
Perfect couples
What are perfect couples? Couples who never fight? Couples who completes eachother? Couples who enjoys eachother?
I wunder what kind of couple I and Raemon are. We never fight, we like the same things and we have the same ideas about things. I m so afraid that we are going to be a boring couple. What if after a couple of years, he decides that I m just a boring woman and leaves me? There is nothing special about me, I like a happy hard working life and to travel around alot. M I a boring person?
If he leaves me, all the things I m doing now are for nothing. But I love him so much and he loves me so much, I m so scared.
I wunder what kind of couple I and Raemon are. We never fight, we like the same things and we have the same ideas about things. I m so afraid that we are going to be a boring couple. What if after a couple of years, he decides that I m just a boring woman and leaves me? There is nothing special about me, I like a happy hard working life and to travel around alot. M I a boring person?
If he leaves me, all the things I m doing now are for nothing. But I love him so much and he loves me so much, I m so scared.
01 October 2010
What is long distance WoW love like?
Today, someone sended me an email to ask what a long distance WoW love is like. Well...
It ain't alot different from normal love, besides the fact that you never seen eachother in real life nor ever touched eachother.
It starts with normal chatting with eachother, you talk about what you like, how you are, your family, your interests and more. After a while chatting in text ain't enough, you want to voicechat with Skype or MSN and in my case on Ventrillo (VT). You start exchanging pictures of eachother. And in the end you start chatting with webcam. You will notice you like him/her more and more.
The urge to see and touch eachother in real life start to grow stronger and stronger. So you will end up visiting eachother, which actually could be very dangerous in the way I did it. I advice people never to go alone to visit someone you have met online. Tell your friends/ parents where and why you are going.
In my case I couldn't have done that, because my parents would never ever had let me do that and a non Chinese guy is a big NO.
After meeting eachother in real life it can go 2 ways:
1. In real life he/she ain't like the person he/she was online, so the relationship ends there
2. In real life he/she is at least at great or better then he/she was online and you want to go on with the relationship.
But what will be the next step? Either one of the two has to move to another country and that is really not an easy decision to make, you leave family, friends and the country you know behind.
Think well before you start a relationship like this, because it will have big effects on either one of your lives.
It ain't alot different from normal love, besides the fact that you never seen eachother in real life nor ever touched eachother.
It starts with normal chatting with eachother, you talk about what you like, how you are, your family, your interests and more. After a while chatting in text ain't enough, you want to voicechat with Skype or MSN and in my case on Ventrillo (VT). You start exchanging pictures of eachother. And in the end you start chatting with webcam. You will notice you like him/her more and more.
The urge to see and touch eachother in real life start to grow stronger and stronger. So you will end up visiting eachother, which actually could be very dangerous in the way I did it. I advice people never to go alone to visit someone you have met online. Tell your friends/ parents where and why you are going.
In my case I couldn't have done that, because my parents would never ever had let me do that and a non Chinese guy is a big NO.
After meeting eachother in real life it can go 2 ways:
1. In real life he/she ain't like the person he/she was online, so the relationship ends there
2. In real life he/she is at least at great or better then he/she was online and you want to go on with the relationship.
But what will be the next step? Either one of the two has to move to another country and that is really not an easy decision to make, you leave family, friends and the country you know behind.
Think well before you start a relationship like this, because it will have big effects on either one of your lives.
Friday's
Friday's are great days. It is the day before the weekend, which means more time for my hunny. Though I have some extra unpaid work to do for my work. But what to do in the weekend? It is raining heavily, so going outside is not a good idea.
We have been watching alot of movies and series, I need a change. Play an online game together? My boyfriend quitted WoW to focus on his studies and since he ain't online, I kinda stopped playing WoW too.
What else can you do inside that is a lot of fun, but doesn't cost alot?
We have been watching alot of movies and series, I need a change. Play an online game together? My boyfriend quitted WoW to focus on his studies and since he ain't online, I kinda stopped playing WoW too.
What else can you do inside that is a lot of fun, but doesn't cost alot?
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